Ens identifiquem amb el que diu Stolorow en aquest aspecte:
Integrating Emotional Trauma
As I chronicled in my last blog post (http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/feeling-relating-existing/201303/i-ll-be-you-when-the-deal-goes-down), two central, interweaving themes have crystallized in the course of my ongoing efforts to grasp the essence of emotional trauma. One pertains to trauma’s context-embeddedness-–painful emotional experiences become enduringly traumatic in the absence of a welcoming relational home or context of human understanding within which they can be held and integrated. The second theme pertains to trauma’s existential significance—emotional trauma plunges us into the devastating recognition that, in virtue of our finitude and the finitude of all those we love, the possibility of emotional trauma constantly impends and is ever present. I also suggested that in the context of an understanding, holding relational home, traumatized states can cease to be traumatic, or at least cease to be as severely and enduringly so.
Giving Sorrow Words
“Give sorrow words. The grief that does not speak whispers
the o’er-fraught heart, and bids it break.
“Grief fills the room up of my absent child,
Lies in his bed, walks up and down with me,
Puts on his pretty looks, repeats his words,
Remembers me of all his gracious parts,
Stuffs out his vacant garments with his form;
Then, have I reason to be fond of grief?
Fare you well: had you such a loss as I,
I could give better comfort than you do.
I will not keep this form upon my head,
When there is such disorder in my wit.
O Lord! my boy, my Arthur, my fair son!
My life, my joy, my food, my all the world!
My widow-comfort, and my sorrows’ cure!”
–William Shakespeare, King John Act III